I found that during my darkest hours, no one knew how much I was hurting, what I was going through or how they might help.
This is a book you’ll want to read before you need it—so that you will have ideas of what you can do and how you can respond—when you first hear the news. We want to help our family and friends through the hard times, but the right words or actions just don’t come to mind. The Art of Helping will give you the tools and enable you to turn thoughts into action.
DON’T wait before you make contact.
DO Respond as soon as you hear the news.
DON’T SAY “If there’s anything you need, give me a call.”
DO Offer a specific thing you can do.
DON’T put pressure on yourself to do something you don’t like to do.
DO use your gifts and talents to help.
DON’T minimize what they are going through.
DO offer caring statements of acknowledgement.
DON’T ASK “When will you be your old self again? or Aren’t you over it yet?”
DO understand that once their life is touched by tragedy, they will never be their “old self” again. They will eventually reach a “new normal” but life will never be the same.
What are some of your favorite creative suggestions in The Art of Helping?
- A mother of two young children picked up a hurting family’s laundry on Mondays, took it home and returned it all laundered and folded on Thursdays.
- A man volunteered to come mow the lawn once a week and do some simple “honey do” chores.
- My sons brought their game boy to the hospital for a friend going through chemo therapy. Every few days they would bring a different game to swap.
How can I learn more about The Art of Helping?
The Art of Helping is reshaping the way people reach out to others. To view more information, visit my website: www.laurenbriggs.com. You can follow me on Facebook as Lauren Littauer Briggs and on Twitter as @Laurenbrgs. The Art of Helping is available in e-book and paperback formats through Amazon.com. If you would like an autographed copy of The Art of Helping, email me at Laurenbrgs@aol.com.